Remember, your goals are there to inspire you, not to shame you. Focus on the gains you’ve made, and let them propel you forward.

What we really aught to do is to get curious to see what each one of these versions of ourselves is trying to teach us. Since they are both us, they are both trying to look after us and help us in their own way.

The new year is a perfect time to reflect, reset, and reclaim control over your life. That’s why Dry January has become such a popular movement. Taking a break from alcohol for 31 days isn’t just about skipping a few drinks; it’s an opportunity to challenge your beliefs, recalibrate your habits, and step into the year with clarity and confidence.

It’s widely known that alcohol acts as an anesthetic depressant in the body, slowing down our central nervous system and relaxing us—at least temporarily. But alcohol’s effects go far beyond that, thanks to the way our bodies respond to its presence.

What if we looked at our own lives with the idea that being broken apart was necessary for change, for our ability to grow in personal power? Would that change how we viewed the shattering moments of our lives? The darkest times, when our drinking had us so low, that was the “solve” part. Now, we get to “coagula” and shape the lead of those negative experiences into the gold of our new life.

If you’ve had experiences with willpower letting you down, maybe try a different approach.